“You Look Great — For Your Age .”

Women are beautiful at every age, so why do people feel its a need to qualify your appearance ?

No one tells a 20, 30 or even 40 year old that they look beautiful for their age. And yet it happens, sometime after 40, there is an invisible beauty boundary that people cross where they feel the need to qualify their compliments or assessment of your appearance.

“The thing is, women are constantly given these backhanded compliments, which might as well have big fat asterisks at the end of them. In fact, according to a study from RoC, 82 percent of women have been told they look “great for their age” in the past year alone, though most say they’d rather not be complimented at all than given one with such a qualifier. While the intention of such comments may be good, they’re actually loaded with the implicit bias that being younger is better and that the recipient’s best years are behind her. In reality, a true compliment would sound like this: “You look great.” Period. RoC and Allure have teamed up with a group of gorgeous, accomplished women to explain why thinking twice before saying, “You look great for your age,” is so important.”(1)

I had this experience , yet again,  the other day visiting my son at work. I settled in at my table and asked the waitress to please let her manager know I was there and wanted to speak with him. She said “who should I tell him is here?” I said “his mom.” She immediately seemed shocked and said “Wow, I didn’t know and you look so young for your age.” I quipped back with a funny line, I had him at ten or something. She then rambled on “ He is like 30 or something right, you still look great.” She continued on about good genes, cosmetics and I should go girl! I wanted to blurt out, what were you expecting a crone!

My son walked over in time to save her from my indignation. I told him what she said and he said “mom, I always say you look young.” At thirty something he didn’t quite get that “looking young” should not be the baseline for beauty. What will happen when I stop looking young, will I suddenly become something or someone else?

I know both were trying to compliment me, but at the same time, why is the expectation that the mom of a thirty something or more has to look or be old ? These types of compliments are a double edged sword.  We all appreciate being flattered or complimented, why is there the need to add in “for your age “?

“Language matters. When talking about a woman over, say, 40, people tend to add qualifiers: “She looks great…for her age” or “She’s beautiful…for an older woman.” Catch yourself next time and consider what would happen if you just said, “She looks great.” Yes, Americans put youth on a pedestal. But let’s agree that appreciating the dewy rosiness of youth doesn’t mean we become suddenly hideous as years go by. “(2)

Getting older does not mean you’re still not beautiful inside and out. It does not mean that we have to accept being considered less because we have reached some time stamp with a cultural age bias on beauty. What it does mean is we are all aging gracefully!

I am convinced part of combating this is how we carry and counter these situations when we are faced with them. I choose to always have the heart and spirit of my twenty year old self with the wisdom and patience of my true years. This makes any woman a beautiful force to be reckoned with at any age.

For me, I simply smiled at my son and said I will take that martini now.

(1)https://www.allure.com/branded/article/alr/why-you-should-think-twice-before-saying-you-look-great-for-your-age
(2)https://www.allure.com/story/allure-magazine-phasing-out-the-word-anti-aging


Featured Doc – Clark Brittain, DO

SottoPelle® is proud to showcase one of our providers in our “Featured Doc Series.”  Clark Brittain, DO practices in Bloomington, Indiana and has been a SottoPelle® Trained Provider since May 2007

Practice Name:
Vibrant Life

Location
642 South Walker St ,
Bloomington, Indiana, United States

Phone Number
812-331-9160

 

Clark Brittain, DO has the following qualifications:

  • Board-certified Gynecologist specializing in intimate wellness for both men and women
  • Brittain’s staff offers personalized treatment for conditions such as hormone deficiencies and sexual intimacy concerns/disorders. These procedures treat symptoms that include painful intercourse, vaginal dryness, erectile dysfunction, and Peyronie’s disease.
  • Brittain is certified to administer SottoPelle® hormone pellets, GAINSwave, CO2RE Intima laser services and Cellular Medicine treatments including the O-Shot and P-Shot. We deal in intimate health matters because Intimate Health Matters.

Please see Clark Brittain, DO’s profile on our directory at: https://www.sottopelletherapy.com/doctors/clark-brittain-do/

Follow him on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VibrantLifeBloomington/

Visit his website: http://drbrittain.com/

 

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It’s Not the Holidays – it’s My Hormones!

Many people are negatively affected by hormonal imbalances. When you add stress to that imbalance, it can often cause chaos on our bodies, mind, and life. Holidays are known to present stress to people for many reasons.  Stress tolerance and how we react to it varies with each person.  Men and women often deal with stress very differently.  It could be concerns on money and holiday spending, or missing lost loved ones, and just overwhelming demands on your energy and time.  Some people who are already hormonally imbalanced will worsen during the holidays and make this time incredibly difficult for themselves and family.

” ‘Stress’ may be defined as any situation which tends to disturb the equilibrium between a living organism and its environment. In day-to-day life there are many stressful situations such as stress of work pressure, examinations, psychosocial stress and physical stresses due to trauma, surgery and various medical disorders.” (1)

Even if you’re not already hormonally imbalanced, undue stress can trigger an issue or imbalance.

“In response to stress, the level of various hormones changes. Reactions to stress are associated with enhanced secretion of a number of hormones including glucocorticoids, catecholamines, growth hormone and prolactin, the effect of which is to increase mobilization of energy sources and adapt the individual to its new circumstance.”(2)

Our body goes into a flight or fight mode with stress. This is not conducive for festive holiday gatherings.

“In a healthy body, once the stress has passed and Cortisol levels decrease, the hypothalamus signals to the pituitary and adrenals to stop hormone production. But this doesn’t happen when chronic stress is involved.  It becomes a loop of continual release of all the stress hormones. The result is dysfunction in the HPA axis (hypothalamus, pituitary, adrenal).  When levels of these hormones, particularly Cortisol, remain elevated in the body, specific symptoms will begin to occur.” (3)

The response in someone who is not healthy or already has hormonal imbalance due to menopause or andropause may result in my many uncomfortable symptoms.

Symptoms of Hormonal Imbalance

If you have been told that your hormone levels are within a normal range, the following signs may be indicative of a potential hormonal war:

  1.     fatigue
  2.     mood instability
  3.     weight gain
  4.     “foggy brain” or memory loss
  5.     adult acne
  6.     hair loss or excessive facial hair growth
  7.     lower sex drive
  8.     extreme PMS

These symptoms can reduce quality of life and increase chances of secondary healthy concerns if you don’t regain hormonal balance. There are solutions, however, and you don’t have to acquiesce to a lower quality of life. If you suspect that you might suffer from a hormonal imbalance, the first step is to consult with a medical professional.” (4)

Sometimes you find yourself second guessing or making excuses for not feeling as you should. The holidays bring on a lot of pleasure but also stress. If you feel as if you’re not yourself, or you have any of these symptoms, contact us today so we can help get your holiday and life back on track for the new year.

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Sources: 

(1)https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3079864/
(2) ibid\
(3) https://www.functionaldiagnosticnutrition.com/8-signs-stress-causing-hormonal-imbalance/\
(4)https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/neuroscience-in-everyday-life/201807/is-hormonal-imbalance-making-you-crazy-moody-or-overweight

Featured Doc – Warren Scott Lafferty, MD

SottoPelle is proud to showcase one of our providers in our “Featured Doc Series.”  Warren Scott Lafferty, MD practices in Bentonville, Arkansas and has been a SottoPelle Trained Provider since August 2013.

Practice Name:
Lafferty Family Care

 

Warren Scott Lafferty, MD has the following qualifications:

  • Clinic focuses on true prevention to disease
  • Also offer SculpSure, Botox and fillers.

Please see Warren Scott Lafferty, MD’s profile on our directory at: https://www.sottopelletherapy.com/doctors/warren-scott-lafferty-md/

Follow him on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaffertyFamilyCare/

 

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Featured Doc – Harry Condoleon, D.O.

SottoPelle is proud to showcase one of our providers in our “Featured Doc Series.”  Harry Condoleon, D.O. practices in Algona, Iowa and has been a SottoPelle Trained Provider since August 2019

Practice Name:
Soma Med Spa

Phone Number:
515-395-7663

 

Harry Condoleon, D.O. has the following qualifications:

  • Member of the American College of Surgeons and American Academy of Cosmetic Surgeons
  • Reputation as a highly skilled surgeon who delivers the safest state of the art treatment to his patients
  • Brings non-invasive, non-surgical services with little to no downtime to the Algona, Iowa area.

Please see Harry Condoleon, D.O’s profile on our directory at: https://www.sottopelletherapy.com/doctors/harry-condoleon-d-o/

Please visit Dr. Condoleon on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/somaalgona

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CarolAnn Tutera Guest Host on 99.9KEZ

CarolAnn Tutera will be the guest host for two hours on 11/24 on 99.9KEZ The Holiday Station helping to bring in this season with health and holiday spirit!!

Listen in and enjoy the beautiful music and CarolAnn talk about hormonal balance.

 

CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO THE STATION.

Featured Doc – Donna Breeland, MD

Today we proudly showcase one of our amazing providers in our “Featured Doc Series.”  Donna Breeland, MD  practices in Flowood, Mississippi and has been a SottoPelle Trained Provider since May 2013.

Donna Breeland, MD has the following qualifications:

  • Board Certified by the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology.
  • Has particular interest in infertility, minimally invasive surgery, and menopause medicine.
  • Has expertise in the use of bio-identical hormones in all forms: creams, pellets, and troches.

Practice Name
East Lakeland OBGYN Associates

Location:
1020 River Oaks Dr 320, Flowood, Mississippi United States

Phone Number
Fax Number
601-936-1416

 

Please see Donna Breeland, MD’s profile on our directory at: https://www.sottopelletherapy.com/doctors/donna-breeland-md/

Follow Donna Breeland, MD on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EastLakelandOBGYN

Visit Donna Breeland, MD’s website: https://eastlakelandobgyn.com/

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Friends

There is a saying that we have friends for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.  Think about the people in your life and what they mean to you. Think about how their friendship has a reason.  Does it feel more like a season or someone you know in your heart you will love forever?  We have work friends, activity or play friends, close friends and acquaintance friends. They are all here to help us get through a hard time, project or just the day-to-day grind of life. They are all here to help us in that moment and place in time for a reason. They are always here to help us learn an important lesson and help us grow. When we think of seasonal friends, we can think of friends that were there during our childhood, ones we fallen out of touch with or friends that we knew a while and hung out with at various times. And then there’s the category of those friends we’ve known our entire lives or will know for the rest of our lives. They feel more like family than our family.  The hard part for many of us is knowing and recognizing the difference in these types of friends and our expectations of other people in our lives . Does it even matter – if the connection makes you happier? My one group of friends were upset with me because I held them to the same standard of behavior and reactions that I had for myself. This doesn’t seem fair because we don’t have friends who we expect to do the exact same things that we do. We need friends to challenge us, help us grow and let us know when we are off track ourselves. If we want a friend that acts and responds just as we do -then get a mirror.  Often we need friends to do the exact opposite of what we do to be a good counter balance in our lives.

Friendship becomes even more important as we get older just as it was in childhood. Our ideas and connections with friends help us grow and transform. As we age our friends become our support network. One of the biggest challenges for people as they age is loneliness. “Loneliness and social isolation are growing public-health concerns for people of all ages in the United States, from young adults to seniors. Studies have long connected loneliness to a range of health issues that could threaten longevity and well-being, including higher risks of heart attacks, strokes, depression, anxiety and early death.
In the study sponsored by the AARP, researchers from the University of Michigan surveyed a group of about 2,000 Americans ages 50 to 80. More than a third of seniors in the poll said they felt a lack of companionship at least some of the time, and 27% said they sometimes or often felt isolated; most of the people who said they lacked companionship also felt isolated, and vice versa. Almost 30% said they socialized with friends, family or neighbors once a week or less.”(1)
Science has proven what many of us already knew -friends make you feel better. Whether the friend is there for a reason, season or lifetime -nurture them and enjoy the benefits.Perhaps that is why social media is so popular as it makes us feel less isolated and more connected. But, relying on these apps is no replacement for the actual companionship found in real friends of any reason, season or lifetime.

(1)https://time.com/5541166/loneliness-old-age/

Loving Life After 50

CarolAnn Tutera is the Leading Lady of Authentic Aging and recently made the front cover of Loving Life after 50!

SottoPelle® was created and has subsequently flourished because of her dedication to people and improving the quality of their lives. The next step and evolution for SottoPelle is to support the growth of empowerment in the fifty and over age demographic. CarolAnn understands and advocates that “you can be the best you want to be at any age”. Agism and the negative connotations associated with getting older are slowly dissipating under the careful watch of CarolAnn Tutera. Her newly launched podcast “Adventures in Aging “on iTunes candidly explores the complexities, challenges and obtainable joy that can be achieved with humor and balance.  Read more about CarolAnn’s efforts to lead by example and help everyone be the best they can be at ANY AGE!

Do you have a story to tell on how your life changed for the better after 50? Contact us via email at marketing@sphrt.com and share your positive experiences and wisdom today.

 

Source:  https://lovinlife.com/leading-lady-of-authentic-aging/

 

Eating Your Veggies?

We all have heard it since we are kids but as we age eating well and getting enough vitamins is just as important.

What is DIM?

DIM is the absorbable form of Diindolylmethane found in several vegetables such as broccoli, brussel sprouts, cabbage and cauliflower. DIM is an extract of these vegetables that, as a supplement, is shown to be beneficial for hormone and immune system health.

Your body forms Diindolylmethane from plant substances contained in specific “cruciferous” vegetables. This type of vegetable is low-calorie, and abundant in folate, vitamins C, E, and K, and fiber. Cruciferous veggies cabbage, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, and broccoli.

We all know that eating enough healthy food can be challenging. This supplement makes it easier to help support the powerful benefits.

Research indicates these vegetables may aid in protecting against cancer as they contain diindolylmethane and a related chemical called indole-3-carbinol. Diindolylmethane is used for helping to prevent breast, uterine, and colorectal cancer. It is also used to prevent an enlarged prostate (benign prostatic hypertrophy, BPH) and treat premenstrual syndrome (PMS).” (1)

Try DIM Today !

Sources:
(1)https://www.rxlist.com/diindolylmethane/supplements.htm